What gives a woman the most pleasure in foreplay?
May 6, 2009
*** QUESTION ***
What gives a women the most pleasure in foreplay?
JS, Male, 23 years, from Bangalore, India
Every woman is sexually unique.
Some prefer lots of breast action, some like it when you play with
their buttocks, some love gentle, clitoral stimulation.
Some women like it gentle & slow, some like it wild & rushed.
Even the same woman might prefer different lovemaking styles at
different times depending on how aroused she is or what her emotional
desires & moods are or where she’s at in her menstrual cycle.
If your partner feels comfortable enough to tell you (or even show
you) what gives her the most pleasure, that’s great, pay close
attention and do your best to do what she asks you to.
However, many women feel shy to tell a man what they want in bed.
Here are some reasons why: http://tinyurl.com/c2cjdg
But as a good lover you have to take the time to find out what gives
If you’re unsure, talk with her. Ask if your various moves feel
good, especially when you’re fondling her buttocks, breasts and
genitals. Ask specific questions. “Is this pressure ok?”, “Would
you like it lighter?” “Stronger?” “Take my hand and show me”.
Or provide a few samples she could choose from. For example, caress
her inner thigh in three ways, A, B and C and let her pick one. Nibble
her buttocks in three ways, 1, 2 and 3 and let her pick one. It’s a
fun and playful way to find out what she enjoys. That’s what great
sex is all about, the fun and the playfulness.
Many men approach sexual pleasure as if it was a DESTINATION to be
reached in a hurry. But the best lovers enjoy the JOURNEY without
worrying about the destination.